UPDATED! Rapport Building is Bullshit
October 25th, 2009 | 
Hey mate,
I challenge you to STOP BUILDING RAPPORT and do what it takes to connect naturally.
POWERPOINT: Rapport building is bullshit, and if you decide to keep reading this 3 minute article, you may need to micro manage everything and everyone that many NLP experts end up with. I have been meeting with people in this field for 20 years, I’ve seen it all.
Because if you succeed in creating artificial rapport, you’ll be tempted to keep doing it, and you will miss out on the power and the beauty of authentic natural connections.
HOW TO CONNECT NATURALLY.
Have you noticed, animals never have to work on getting rapport. Why? Because animals almost NEVER fall out of rapport.
So the solution is NOT you learning and using ARTIFICIAL AND WEIRD methods to “gain rapport”, the solution is to become more “natural”.
Why I got DEEP into NLP?
After being a prison guard taken hostage in the Camp Hill Prison Riots back in 1989, I decided to learn NLP from the few experts who weren’t manipulating women to get lucky or minds to make sales.
You see, I got into NLP to save my life, to become more NATURAL again. I had been having flashbacks and other interesting stuff happen at the time, PTSD does that to you.
Anyhoo…
THE PROVEN SOLUTION – HOW TO ACTUALLY CONNECT WITH ANYONE – ANYWHERE – ANYTIME!
1. Become profoundly curious ABOUT THEM. That’s what all the winners do, they GET CURIOUS about people.
2. Learn how to ASK QUESTIONS that invite people to Open Up WITH you.
3. Notice I didn’t say, “act interested and ask questions that OPEN THEM UP.
And IF you are one of the COOL KIDS, the AMAZING people who UNDERSTAND how important #3 is, then if you want to dial it up a level higher…
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I want to now thank you for reading. THANK YOU.
Mr. Twenty Twenty
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I AM NOT JOHN WAYNE! Nor do I have or have ever had his syndrome!! I never even met the guy and here you have me having his syndrome! What kind of girl do you think I am!?
I my dear, have the Hi Ho Silver Syndrome.. a much more elegant and steady syndrome, connected and rich.
This is a great post… you make great points…. of course everything is interconnected and of course we are all in rapport. Yes, not knowing and experiencing that will have you muck it all up. NLP is not the answer.. it’s all old paradigm actually… all about DOING DOING DOING and CONTROL/MANIPULATION
Hop into the flow… the rapport filled connected flow and all is perfectly Divine!
Love to you Twenty!
~Amy~
Amy,
In perfect “rapport” with you as always.
Hugs and love,
20/20