James started connecting naturally.

James started connecting easily.

James started connecting enjoyably.

8 weeks earlier, James emailed me.  He was pissed.  He was angry.  He felt all alone, that he had been gyped, he felt that nobody on earth understood him.

Except for me.

He had been reading articles here, on NLP LIVE for a few weeks.  The night he emailed me he had been reading for over an hour.    It was then, that it hit him.

“I don’t need more techniques methods or secrets, what I need is someone like you to, just do what you do.  I’ve heard you on your radio show, I’ve listened to your recordings, I’ve heard how you so naturally connect with people.  I need you to connect with me and help me get what I’ve been missing.  Would you please help me?  I need to connect with people, and I don’t want to keep trying to use rapport methods.”

So we did a total of 10 weeks of coaching.  Helping him “do what I do”.

Our calls were fun, challenging, and very unique.  They were NOT about rapport techniques or rapport methods.

We did 10 weeks of rapport coaching, helping him notice when he did just 2 things.

1. Notice when he was losing peoples interest and attention.
2. Notice when he left them behind, and went into his own little trance world.

I trained him how to NOTICE and USE ATTENTION, because:

All people want is attention – from you.

If you don’t know how to NOTICE BOTH your attention and their attention, then you are probably one of those people who are frustrated, and wondering why you still can’t connect with people.

Let me know if this makes sense, and if you want in.

Email:  2020@exhostage.com

James, I thank you for asking me to do this kind of work with you.  I thank you for having the guts to reach out, to keep showing up for our calls, and for investing in you.

I was sitting there, I watched her move from across the room, and I knew that I wanted to talk with her.  She looked interesting, energetic, alive.

So I walked past her, up to the counter, to get another cup of coffee, I glanced over at her, relaxed, focused my gaze on her, and immediately I noticed her neclace.

“Hi, I’ve been admiring your necklace from across the room, did you make it?”

She looked at me, saw that I was sincere, and then we started talking.

In the next 25 minutes, I learned that she bought it on a trip to Virginia Beach, and that she goes there 2 times a year.  Once with her friends, once with her family.

We talked until she had to get back to work, she would have given me her number if I had asked, she hinted several times, and she said she hoped that we would bump into each other again.    We did, I introduced her to Carol, and she became a friend of ours.

“All of the good ones are taken.”

So why did she open up like that?   I didn’t “NLP” or “seduce” her.

How to easily and naturally get rapport.

“When you meet someone, keep in mind that you meet their heart, their body, their mind.”

I tied all three of those together.  I gave her a genuine compliment, asked a question I wanted the answer to, and centered it all around something SPECIFIC about her.  This something specific could be about a thing she has or activity she does.

Compliment = heart.

Question = mind.

Necklace = body.

You can use this “method” to meet just about anyone, and if you are genuine with it, you can get invited deep into their world.

Have fun,

Mr Twenty Twenty

The Power of The REAL Reason Why….

This quick 3 minute read begins with a paragraph from our Insider Course I get asked a lot about:

“Back in 89 he was a real life hostage in a 3 day prison riot in Camp Hill Pennsylvania. He IMMERSED himself in these technologies because he couldn’t live the life that he had been dealt. HE NOTICED THAT HE WASN’T JUST READY TO CHANGE, HE HAD TO CHANGE NOW OR DIE!”

As you can imagine, I got into NLP because my life depended on it.

And since my life depended on me actually “getting it”, I developed a few very powerful strategies so I could get the most out of my mentors.

“Don’t do what most people are doing.  Ignore what people say – notice what they do.”

Think about this.  Most people take notes on what the trainer is teaching.  That’s why most trainings are boring, don’t give you what you want, and are pretty darn similar.

On the other hand…

I would take PRECISE notes on what they were DOING. Not just when they were on stage, but after hours as well.   You can learn TONS after hours, that’s why we keep our trainings manageable, so that we can have after hour time with everyone who want’s to.  (It’s smart to stay up late, smoke cigars, and hang out.   You never know what ELSE you can learn and take home.)

This kick ass attitude is where “The Insider Keys” came from.

Hundreds, then thousands of hours over the past 2 decades… mentoring with the best of the best.

• Reading between the lines.
• Staying after hours.
• Getting to know them.
• Showing up when they “invite you over” for drinks or cigars.
• Sharing with them who and what I am.
• Asking them the tough questions, questions that nobody else dares to ask.

It’s more than going the extra mile. It’s LIVING the extra mile.

Close to 6 years ago, back before I changed my name, I started training a handful of my clients with very powerful, yet subtle distinctions called, The Insider Keys.

Using those Insider Keys, their skill levels skyrocketed, their personal lives shifted dramatically, and that’s when things got interesting and my problem began.

Since I am a big thinker, a visionary, and one that shoots for the impossible…  I had to discover…

“Is it possible to learn the Insider Keys on video, get them to the masses, not just share them in small group trainings?”

Is it possible to get powerful and complete shifts in perspective by watching videos?

I had to know, because the Insider Keys are subtle, they aren’t “step by step”, they aren’t “skills” in the conventional sense of the word, they all involve Precise and Powerful SHIFTS in perspective.

“As you know, I am a trainer, and I am a top sales performer 7 years in row, and I can tell you with authority, that the Insider Keys make all of your skills more powerful and complete. They make everything you do easier.”

(Think about it, your PERSPECTIVE can limit you, it can kill you or it can liberate you. Perspective is WAY more powerful than another “new and improved NLP technique.”)

Originally, the three Insider Key Videos sold for $197 back in the old days.

They rocked. They rolled. Then they were gone.

On our old discussion group (The Science of Excellence) we got great feedback, shared amazing stories, and made lasting friendships.   Lives changed drastically, and quickly, for those who got them, and worked with the simple, yet very explosive ideas.

“This shit will challenge you.   Don’t just watch the videos.  Go out and prove him wrong!  Your life will change drastically if you use what you learn.   Do it!”

By request, I’m bringing those Videos back, for a limited time, because I have something very special in the works that these will help you get ready for.

BONUS:  EVERYONE who orders these videos, can schedule a private call with me FREE OF CHARGE.  This ain’t no regular training call, you call me after watching these videos, and challenge me, so I can challenge you.”

Nuff said, it’s the next best thing to BEING THERE!

Get them here today!

http://www.theinsidercourse.com/veryspecialmoment.html

They won’t be available for long…

Time to kick ass!

Mr. Twenty Twenty

PS:  Real and Authentic – VS – Fake and Installed – That is what this course is REALLY ABOUT.   What do you want in your life?  More REAL AND AUTHENTIC or will you settle for Fake and Installed.  (Special thank you to Marty who asked me to put this PS here. )